Grief and Loss

Facilitated After-Death Communication (FADC®) can help you experience a reconnection with a deceased family member, friend or anyone whose death has affected you. The process was discovered in 1995 by Dr. Allan Botkin, Psy.D., while working with veterans in a V.A. hospital. The benefits experienced by clients were so extensive that soon thereafter Dr. Botkin started training other psychologists, social workers and clinical therapists in the use of this treatment. I have been trained and certified by Dr. Botkin. His book Facilitated After Death Communication, A Miraculous Therapy for Grief and Loss is available in bookstores.

When a loved one dies, it is natural to experience a deep sadness. At times we may also feel guilt and/or anger. These feelings may resolve or may last over many years. The impact on our day-to-day life may subside, but the sense of loss often persists. Very often we may wish that we could “finish the conversation”, that we could have some experience of closure, a few last words, a question or two answered, a sense of reconnection that would offer us peace.

After-death communication or ADC, is a naturally occurring phenomenon experienced by many people, usually happening “out of the blue” when least expected, and often during sleep. Those who experience such communication report a sensory (through one or more of the five senses) contact with someone in their life who has died. It can bring great relief and resolution.

Using the protocol of induced after-death communication (FADC), I help clients, typically in two sessions, reduce the sadness that their loss still holds, and open a receptive state to an ADC. Most people report a sensory reconnection with their loved one that they experience as very real, accompanied by a deep healing of sadness. Many even say that they experience a profound joy. This deep healing is reportedly sustained over time.

Your grief and/or trauma does not have to be recent in order to experience the benefits of the FADC procedure. In fact the death may have occurred at some point in the past and you may currently feel resolved with only an occasional and contained sense of loss. It’s important to note that the deceased need not have been a loved one or a close friend in order for you to benefit. It may have been a conflictual or even traumatic relationship or event, and in some cases you may not even have met them. Veterans and others who have experienced great trauma are among those who report experiencing resolution and freedom.

The experience across all clinicians trained in FADC therapy over the years since its discovery is that 75% of clients will have an after-death communication experience. Even in cases of grief or lingering sadness without an ADC, ongoing significant relief is consistently reported. Your part is simply to be willing and able to access and address your core emotions during the process.

The method uses EMDR, (eye movement desensitization reprocessing), but differently than standard EMDR. FADC was actually discovered as a result of this difference. As a disclaimer, the research that supports EMDR does not necessarily support the way it is used in FADC sessions. This is not a ‘talk therapy’ and the experiences that emerge will be uniquely your own. You will be fully conscious during the sessions.

FADC therapy includes a short pre-screening and approximately three hours of specific work over the course of two consecutive days. The first session is 90 minutes and the second session is between 60-90 minutes. The cost is $450 with half due on the first day and the balance due the second day. If you wish to file a claim with your insurance company, I will give you a receipt to submit. Select cases may be considered for financial assistance.

Unless other arrangements have been made, all FADC sessions are held in my Oak Brook, IL office. Please note that you may be tired after the first session and it’s best not to plan strenuous mental, emotional, or physical activities in-between the two sessions.

My mother died tragically when I was a teenager. I’m now in my 50s. As a result of the FADC Therapy, I feel a connection to my mother that has eluded me most of my adult life. I did not expect to feel any deep emotion, believing I was well past the grieving process so I was taken aback when during the session I began seeing images of my mother and feeling a grief I had thought was long gone.

I was able to ask questions of my mother and was surprised and elated when I received astonishing responses in the form of thoughts and information that gently appeared in my mind; information I had not previously known. Deep emotions, tears, laughter and surprise all came together to form the most incredible session I have ever experienced.

During the next few days after the therapy, I searched deep within myself for any trace of grief and sadness surrounding my mother’s death. I found none. I feel healed and balanced.

I am very grateful for Rhanda’s expert guidance through the FADC therapy process. It is remarkable that such deep relief can come in just two sessions. I have worked with Rhanda before and she is a gifted therapist. I highly recommend her in all that she does and this therapy for anyone who has experienced grief and loss in their lives.

—Pam Peterson, Pam Peterson Art

Rhanda Salameh, MSW, LCSW
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Oak Brook · 1550 Spring Road, Suite 215
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